NLP?
How does NLP work?
It works for you. By reviewing the areas you choose for positive, lasting changes, your practitioner will quickly assess with you your motivations and key drivers.
Your practitioner may already while talking to you help with changes conversationally through positive re-enforcement of what you would like the outcome to be for permanent change. Engaging your six senses, your practitioner will work with your objective for the session – here you may engage in a combination of gentle relaxation, visualisation and some fun exercises to allow the changes to happen.
Working with your unconscious and hypnotherapy
Your unconscious is the most powerful aspect and driver behind your behaviours and experience in life.
Have you ever “told” yourself that you are going to give up chocolate or study harder for a promotion or even take up a hobby, only to find with all good intentions and plans, you only manage to stick to this goal or objective for 2 days or if you are lucky up to a week or two?
Now think of something that you do unconsciously all the time….like
Breathing
Walking
Your eye blinking
Brushing your teeth
Do you think about every breath you take? Or when you are due to take your next breath? Do you ever forget to breath? No.
The reason being, that breathing is an unconscious process. It is something we all do (if we are alive). We do not consciously think about it. It happens “naturally”. There is a bigger part of your mind that knows how to do this and most importantly knows how to do this well and competently! This part of your mind is called your “Unconscious Mind”.
Taking your first step…
Fine, with walking for a one year old, taking a first step is not always easy. When you took your first step you have probably spent some time watching adults walk around you. How they walk, perhaps your parent or guardian have taken both your hands and guided you a few steps.
The initial trial of taking a few steps may have resulted in the pain of falling or not getting it quite right. Though as there is someone cheering you to continue to take your first steps, there is cheers and applause of encouragement. You may giggle, smile and then be encouraged to continue to learn how to take your first step…and then it happens – you take your FIRST STEP. You receive amazing applause, love and appreciation. You have done this once! You try it again – walking one step to two, to three…then soon you are walking around perhaps still looking for props to keep your step steady….and before long….. you are walking, consciously thinking about how you are doing this well. You start to do “taking steps, and walking” in your stride, and this just happens. Amazingly, you are now so skilled at this behaviour that you forget how to consciously do this, and “walking” becomes an unconscious behaviour – a behaviour you do not have to ask yourself to think about! You continue to do “walking” unconsciously all your life since that very first step.
Have a look at the table below to summarise how you learnt this behaviour,
| The process of change, learning a habit or a new skill | The behaviour being demonstrated at each level |
| Unconscious Incompetence | Thinking about taking your first step, without the knowledge or ability. |
| Conscious Incompetence | Taking a few first steps, and still tumbling and getting up to relearn how to do this better. |
| Conscious Competence | Walking steadily, firmly and with purpose and knowing you are doing this well. |
| Unconscious Competence | Walking in life, and in your day-to-day schedule without even considering or consciously thinking that you are competently walking. |
This is the process of how behaviour is learnt to competence, then logged to the unconscious memory forever to repeat this cycle, this programme for you.
Overcoming bad habits and behaviours
Now this is a good thing if you have learnt behaviours that are productive for you and helps you live a fulfilling life. However, there may be some behaviours such as overeating, compulsive behaviours such as nail biting, fears of heights and spiders or other phobias, low self esteem to name a few that you may have also learnt so well to unconscious competence! These unresourceful behaviours may be driving your conscious behaviours. These may be what you would like to change for good, or you may just find with this therapy a body of knowledge, that it is also possible to set some new exciting learning or set a new skill or talent in place.
Your practitioner will be able to work with you in accessing your unconscious directly with you through the process of relaxation, visualisation, or an altered state of consciousness called hypnotherapy to enable the process of re-setting some of this old unresourceful behaviour to new more empowering ones for you.
For example a fear of dancing can be transformed in a short time, to a love and inner confidence of getting up on the floor and dancing as well as enjoying a social evening with friends. A fear or phobia can be transformed into an empowering international career because you are no longer stuck in an old learnt pattern of fear when flying.
Learning this inner change process for yourself and knowing this change can happen at a very quick, lasting and unconscious level is a profound insight. Being at the receiving end of therapy that can literally change your life when previously it may have only been a dream is a very empowering experience. At Skylight Associates, we are committed and passionate at supporting you through this inner learning and change.
For example you may have always dreamt of doing the following;
Running your own business
Travelling the world
Designing a life of mastery for you
Quit smoking
Overcoming fears and/or phobias
Having more confidence in asking that special person out on a date
Being more assertive
Higher self esteem
Developing a talent or skill you have always wanted to
Motivation for healthy living
Or whatever else you can fill in the blanks ____________ ________________ ___________ of wanting to create in your life.
At Skylight we can help you make these changes a reality. This is the time to enjoy this process and gift to you.
You see at Skylight Associates, anything is possible. With a sense of curiosity and fun, you will find whatever change you choose to make with Skylight; positive, fun and life changing.
Are the therapies offered at Skylight (including NLP and hypnotherapy) safe?
YES. All the therapies provided with Skylight are safe, with trained and qualified practitioners to guide you. NLP and hypnotherapy is also safe.
In fact advertisers have been using it for decades to influence us by connecting the feeling we get from owning their product i.e. the status of driving a Ford versus a Porsche, making one’s identity more worthy if one drives a Porsche versus a Ford – it is all a matter of personal preference. As well as using clever typography and language to create desire and want in us, the advertisers also tap into human emotion to navigate their clients to the outcome they want.
Management development and business leaders also use NLP to accelerate performance and use this high performance psychology for adding business edge and value for their customers over their competitors. Most personal development gurus that have record sales books, getting you to visualise your outcome or use techniques for accelerated sports performance – for example “acting as if” you have performed well in a race, can all be attributed to NLP, hypnotherapy and this leading edge high performance psychology.
Now, NLP and hypnotherapy in therapy is also very powerful, as how it is used is to direct this emotional language with clients to create desirable outcomes and create positive life changes.
Famous personalities including Tiger Woods, Michael Crichton, Andre Agasi are all clients of this advanced psychology.
So you see, it really is the therapy of people that want to be successful and continue doing what they enjoy doing, well. The most important thing you will find at Skylight Associates is that our practitioners are skilled, personable and that you can fully trust us to ensure that your best interest are at heart.
For consulations and bookings please contact Zita Lourdes at change@skylightassociates.co.uk or +44 (0) 7890818318.
zita | 
August 10, 2009 5:09 pm
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